Waiting for Benjamin: A Story about Autism
Alexandra Jessup Altman, Author
Susan Keeter, Illustrator
Albert Whitman & Co., Fiction, 2008
Suitable for ages: 5-9
Themes: Living with a sibling with autism, Brothers, Emotional Challenges
Opening: “My name is Alexander and I was born first. Then came Benjamin. We live in a stone house with Mom and Dad. After Benjamin’s second birthday we all waited for him to talk, but he didn’t say any words. He just wiggled his fingers and rocked.”
Synopsis: Alexander’s younger brother has autism. He loves Benjamin, but finds it difficult to play with him when he stares blankly at the wall, rocks back and forth or wiggles his fingers. Even when Alexander builds a cool castle with blocks, Benjamin throws himself on the floor. Alexander is angry, frustrated and disappointed. After a visit to the doctor, Alexander’s parents tell him that Benjamin’s brain works differently and that’s why he isn’t talking and playing. They explain that when Benjamin wiggles his fingers the doctor says it feels so good that he can’t hear anyone speaking. Alexander lays in the grass and wiggles his fingers, but it doesn’t feel good to him. He stares at the sky and wonders what Benjamin sees. Two teachers come to help Benjamin listen, talk and play. Alexander is a jealous that his brother gets special attention. He’s also embarrassed to invite friends to play at his house.
Why I like this book: This is a very helpful introduction book about autism. But, not all autistic children are the same and make the progress Benjamin does. I like how it focuses on the emotional challenges siblings face when they have an autistic brother or sister. Many siblings experience anger, frustration, embarrassment, disappointment, worry, and jealousy. There is a Note from the author at the beginning of the book for parents about siblings. Since this book is written for an older age group, I think it would be helpful to include information and discussion questions for siblings to help them share their experiences and feelings. Susan Keeter’s illustrations are very colorful, expressive and match the mood of the story.
Resource: Parents Helping Parents has interesting information on Sibling of Autistic Children Get a Chance to Express Themselves. Check out the Autism Support Network for sibling support.
I know a lot of kids who would relate to this book!
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Yes, I liked the emphasis on siblings of children with special needs. Has to be tough.
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I often think about the siblings in the family dynamic that includes a child with special needs. I imagine a lot of kids will find comfort in recognizing themselves in Alexander! Thanks for highlighting yet another ‘must read’, Patricia.
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This is such a tough time for the siblings of children with special needs. Glad there are families, resources and programs to help them.
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This looks like a good one Ms Tilton. i see more and more books for kids about autism and that’s a good thing.
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Yes, it is a special book for siblings.
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Thanks for lifting up this book! Yesterday a customer bought three books about Autism/Aspergers to send to some relatives whose have one child who is on the spectrum. She specifically was looking for books for the boy’s sister, to help her better understand her brother. This is exactly the kind of book that we want to have in our mix for folks. Another one I love is Owen Has Burgers and Drum. http://www.newhorizonpressbooks.com/new/owenhasburgersanddrum.php
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Yes, this is a good book for siblings to help them with their feelings. And, thank you for sharing Owen Has Burgers and Drum. Will check it out.
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I was thinking the same as Rhythm, there are definitely more books these days on the market for children with autism or kids trying to understand siblings/friends with autism. It is great.
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Yes, more books are available and a lot of self-published authors are wanting me to review their books. I think it’s great too.
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I can see how this book would be very helpful for families that have a child with special needs. Great review!
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Thank you Cathy. It is a great sibling book. More are needed.
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Big audience waiting for a book like this. Sounds like it would be very helpful.
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Yes, there are a lot of kids who could benefit from this story.
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Well, it ought not surprise me that you’ve found another powerhouse that simply must make its way to my shelves. WoW … sounds like Leah’s Voice only with boys. Thank you SO much!
Barbara
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Glad you like it. I’m going to have to get Leah’s Voice.
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This sounds like a great book. I like that it doesn’t show everyone being happy (I think that it is a bit false showing everyone being happy) – it is realistic-ish. 🙂 I think this should be in every school classroom. 🙂
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Know it doesn’t. That’s why I like it. It’s hard on siblings.
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I think Erik is right! This doesn’t sound like a Hollywood movie with a sparkly ending but sounds realistic. You find great books, Patricia!
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It’s a very realistic book! Albert Whitman is always a good source for books like this.
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