National Autism Awareness Month, Apr. 1 -30, 2021
The Space We’re In
Katya Balen, Author
Margaret Ferguson Books, Fiction, October 2019
Pages: 208
Suitable for ages: 8-12
Themes: Brothers, Autism Spectrum, Family Relationships, Coding, Loss, School, Friendship
Synopsis:
Frank is ten. He loves soccer, codes, riding his bike, and playing with his friends. His brother Max is five. Max on eats foods that are beige or white, hates baths, loud noises, bright lights and if he has to wear a T-shirt that isn’t gray with yellow stripes me melts down down down.
Max is autistic, and Frank longs for the brother he was promised by his parents before Max was born — someone who was supposed to be his biggest fan so he could be the best big brother in the world. Instead, Frank has trouble navigating Max’s behavior and their relationship. But when tragedy strikes, Frank finds a way to try to repair their fractured family, and in doing so learns to love Max for who he is.
Why I like this book:
Katya Balen has written an emotional and sensitive novel about a 10-year-old boy who deals with the challenges of living with a younger autistic brother who is the center of his parents’ attention. Narrated by Frank, readers will gain insight into how deeply affected he is by Max. He feels resentment, anger, and the fatigue of living in a home where he feels dismissed. They will also hear from a Frank who loves Max and is ashamed when he doesn’t stand up for him with school bullies.
The plot is distinctly realistic and then tension is palpable. There is a tragedy (no spoilers) and the story is so sad. But don’t stop reading. Frank may be vulnerable, but he’s also determined and resilient. Readers will ride Frank’s roller coaster as his world spins out of control, but they will watch his relationship with Max slowly grow as he helps his family move forward in a very creative way.
I love the special bond between Frank and his mother. She keeps the family together, unlike her husband who has difficulty with the chaotic family dynamics. Frank and his mom create their own private way of communicating with each other. They silently tap Morse code messages into each other’s hands. His mother is also a talented artist, but stopped painting after Max was born. Frank likes to draw and has inherited some of her talent, which is revealed at the end of the story at a time when he uses his talent to help his family heal.
Frank’s love of coding is important part of the story and I was thrilled that the author wrote each chapter title in the “cypher code.” Readers will have fun challenging themselves to break the code. Frank is also fascinated with “the golden ratio” that links space, nature, and people — the spiral galaxy, the swirl of a hurricane, a snail’s shell, and the shape of our ears.
Frank also has a strong relationship with his friends Ahmed and Jamie. They have a special wilderness spot they ride their bikes to and it is the perfect escape for Frank. In the woods they tear off their shirts, rub mud on their faces, swing on ropes, build a den, chase each other with chunks of mud, howl like wolves, and laugh and laugh and laugh! Before they leave they always scratch ” 23 9 12 4″ (wild) into the earth and their initials, 10 (Jamie) 6 (Frank) and 1 (Ahmed).
This book is an important story for youth who are living with a sibling on the autism spectrum. It’s also a book for parents to read with their kids. It’s a complex situation for families, when they have a child that requires so much attention. This book will help encourage discussions.
Katya Balen has worked in a number of special schools for autistic children. She now runs Mainspring Arts, a nonprofit that organizes creative projects for neurodivergent people. The Space We’re In is her debut novel. She lives outside of London with her boyfriend and their unbelievably lazy rescue dog.
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*Reviewed from a library book.
I´ve read a couple of books about children with autistic siblings and I´m glad to see they are out there. It is hard on other members of the family which is often forgotten as parents deal with the challenges.
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It’s important not to forget the siblings of kids on the autism spectrm. I was happy to see this book. Wasn’t thinking — should have run this in review in April during National Autism Awareness Month.
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It’s great to see books for kids with autistic siblings. And I thinks it’s especially awesome that the main character is a boy.
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Yes, I was happy to see the main character a boy! There is so much growth in his character. Nice for readers to know someone is experiencing what they are.
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What a much needed book for kids and families. Autism is an often misunderstood condition and one that is receiving increased attention in children’s lit. I can’t wait to spend some time with Frank and his family. Thanks for the review.
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This is an excellent book for families with a child on the autism spectrum. You will love Frank’s character development. Wished I had saved this for National Autism Awareness Month, April 1.-30.
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This sounds like such a powerful story! I have known people whose siblings have autism, and it is as much a changing experience for the siblings as it is for the child themselves. Thanks for the great review!
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It’s a challenging for the entire family, depending upon the severity of the autism. There are many who are high-functioning and have made major contributions to society, like Temple Grandin, and her theories and work with livestock.
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I have had many students with autistic siblings and some have definitely felt like Frank. I am definitely going to be reading this one. The story sounds powerful and important. Thanks for sharing. Great cover too!
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Yes, it is a beautiful cover! Sounds like an important book for teacher’s to have on hand to let students know they aren’t alone. Think you’d enjoy reading this book.
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I will be checking this out for sure. I have three nephews who are on the spectrum, and this sounds like a great book. Thanks for telling me about it.
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That is a lot for a family. There are so many degrees of the spectrum. Hope you enjoy this read, it may be a helpful recommendation.
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Thanks for featuring this. I’ll have to look into it! I love a good sibling story.
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It is an excellent sibling story. Wished I saved it for Autism Month in April.
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